Sunday, July 12, 2015

An Example to Live By- My Mom


The older I get, the more I appreciate the importance of the great Truths I am still learning about life.  Sometimes I wonder how I could have gone through so much of my life unaware of the significance of these Truths.  As a child, educated in Catholic schools, I learned the basics of faith and continued the rubrics of my faith throughout adulthood, thinking all the while that it was enough to believe in God, follow the Ten Commandments most of the time, beg forgiveness for my sins on occasion, and devote an hour or so each week to devotion.  But for the most part, my life has been consumed by the busy-ness of life.  Earning a living, raising a family, maintaining homes, trying to find a little time to relax, time seems to have flown by.
Now that I’ve been retired 5 years, I’ve begun to understand that the Truths I’ve accepted on faith are far more important than I had imagined.  I am beginning to realize that God’s laws and the guidance of my Church are not restrictions on my freedom, nor do they constrain my selfish appetites.  Instead, they are the keys to peace of mind, and the gateway to true freedom, freedom from obsessions that, if unchecked, lead to anxiety, disappointment, and unhappiness.  Having concerned myself for so many years with the pursuit of happiness, I thought that success in this life would ensure that my wife and family would enjoy the fruits of our combined labor.  But as I look back, the happiest, most joyful moments in life were not the result of success, but rather the shared experiences of intimacy with those I love most in this life: my wife, our children, grandchildren, and extended family.  Indeed, moments of love and relationship are the greatest source of joy, far surpassing any other temporal pleasures.  I am just now beginning to understand that in those moments of transcendent joy, I was participating in, and enjoying the Kingdom of God.  In those moments, nothing else compared to the love I was experiencing, and nothing else mattered. 
In Sunday’s scripture readings, God commissions Amos to become a prophet and the people do not want to hear what he as to say because they are otherwise occupied.  Jesus sends the Apostles out to spread the good news that “the kingdom of God is at hand.”  Those who accepted the message received healing and peace, while others rejected it, perhaps because they were too busy with the activities of daily life.  No one can possibly know what constitutes the Kingdom of God in its fullness, but God has revealed that “it is at hand,” and that it is a Kingdom of Love, mercy, and forgiveness.  When Jesus proclaimed the beatitudes, He was describing that kingdom where peace, love, and mercy prevail.
This is not, as so many skeptics claim, ‘pie in the sky.’  I am just now coming to realize that we are surrounded by the kingdom of God, by His Love and Mercy, if only we open our eyes and ears and hearts to the Truth God has revealed.  That Truth is summed up by the twofold command of loving God above all else, and loving others as we love ourselves.  Jesus is the perfect example of this love, in that He obeyed His Father explicitly, and loves all of us sacrificially, even to the point of death.  In doing so He wrought our salvation.  Embracing Him and His loving sacrifice opens us up to His saving grace, His Presence in our lives, and in effect we have the opportunity to enter into the Kingdom of God, right here, right now.  His is a kingdom unbounded by spacetime, meaning it is not a specific or distant place nor in a separate time.  The kingdom of God encompasses all space and all time.  The fact that we cannot perceive it in the here and now, makes no difference to its existence.  As Jesus Himself said, many ‘have eyes but do not see, ears, but do not hear’.  We are too often preoccupied by our selfish pursuits to see what is right before us and around us all the time:  the Love of God.
What got me thinking about all this, is that my mother is nearing the end of her life.  She’s 91 years old and in failing health, getting weaker by the day, literally fading away.  It is hard to witness, but at the same time inspirational, because of her strong faith and courage in the face of death.  She has long been a powerful witness to the Presence of God, not only in how gracefully she has accepted her gradual descent into frailty, but in her unfailing commitment to the Holy Spirit.  For as long as I can remember, she has told me that the Holy Spirit gave her the strength to raise eight children, to care for Dad during his long bout with Alzheimer’s disease, and more recently with her many physical infirmities. 
Having retained all her mental and spiritual faculties, mom is fully aware of her declining health, but seldom complains about the many indignities she has endured, as the result of illness, accidents, and the ravages of old age.  She has kept her sense of humor, her grace, and her dignity, not by dint of personal effort she says, but because of the Presence of the Holy Spirit in her life.  Until recently, she has attended daily mass and Communion.  Now she can only watch on closed circuit TV.  She prays the rosary, usually twice a day, not for herself, but for her children, grandchildren, great grandchildren, and one great-great grandson.  Until just a few weeks ago, she prepared over 100 birthday and anniversary cards every year, wanting her progeny to know they were loved and prayed for continuously. 
The great Truth I’ve learned from mom’s life, is that loving God is the source of true peace and happiness.  If there’s one word that mom would use to describe her attitude, even now, it is “grateful.”  She has told me over and over again, “how lucky” she has been to be so loved, and to have such a wonderful family.  She is living in the love of God, here, now, in the midst of her daily struggles with oxygen, weakness, and illness.  Despite her failing eyesight and hearing, she “sees and hears” the Truth of God’s love, present throughout her life, and especially now in the twilight of her earthly life.  Her greatest joy is knowing that soon she will leave all her infirmities behind when she is released from the constraints of spacetime to enjoy the fullness of the Kingdom of God.

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